What Do Canoeing, Skiing, and Life Have in Common? Three Top Tips for Finding Mentors

"Turn your shoulders toward where you want to go,"shoulders downhill, shift your weight on top of your skis,
our guide yelled just before the canoe turnedplant your pole, and gracefully float around the moguls.
sideways to the wave, rolled upside down, spilling usIn life, keep your momentum, know where you are
into the ice-cold North Saskatchewan River.going, keep your thoughts and actions on your desired
"Turn your shoulders downhill, toward where you wantpath, and use your natural strengths and talents to
to go," the ski instructor yelled just before I caught theguide you through any challenges.
edge of my ski on a huge mogul, and tumbledYou may be thinking, "But I don't know how."
head-over-heel down the steep, snow-covered slope.One of the greatest lessons I have learned in life is to
"Turn your thoughts and actions toward where youask for help and guidance, rather than fumbling along
want to go," my mentor suggested as I struggled withon my own.
how, or if, I was going to proceed with my business.I have also learned to be careful who I accept advice
Turn toward where you want to go.from. I carefully choose my guides, coaches, and
Ohhhh, those are powerful words. In fact, theymentors. They must be people that I know, like, and
describe a natural law of life.trust. Having a degree or accreditation does not
It doesn't make sense to turn away from the direction Inecessarily mean they are right for me.
am going, and yet, that is exactly what I do at times.Here are three top tips to help you find effective
The block between my ears pulls me in anotherguides, coaches, and mentors.
direction. My beliefs, perceptions, and fears hold me1. Look for people who are moving forward in a
back.direction that you would like to go. These may be
I know exactly when this is happening to me. It is whenpeople in a similar or different business. They are
I have trouble getting out of bed in the morning, when Ipositive thinkers, movers 'n shakers, and go-getters.
am afraid to sit down and write another article orThey are making positive things happen in their life.
chapter of a book, when I resist preparing and2. Interview the person to discover if they have similar
practicing for a presentation, when I find busy-workmorals and values as you. It is critical that any advice
rather than to plan and focus on where I want to go.you accept feels right for you.
Busy-work? Here's what I'm talking about:o read3. When you are on an unknown path, find someone
junk-mailo long unproductive phone calls to friendsowho has "been there, done that" already. They are
extended, and I mean r...e...a...l...l...y extended lunchcreating success in areas where you need help. When
breakso wash the dogo re-arrange paperclips andyou need help in marketing, technology, relationships,
penso search for and send those cute little chainoutdoor pursuits, etc., look for people who excel in
e-mailso go shopping for nothing in particular.those areas. Their experience and advice can save
I feel so busy doing, doing, doing, but not accomplishingyou thousands of dollars, many headaches, and
anything productive. I hang on to the security of theheartaches.
past, and focus on what has been.Also be willing to share your expertise with your
What happens?mentors. You have great knowledge too. A true
I stand still and watch the world zipping by me. I avoidwin-win relationship can be built where both people
the things that need to be done to move forwardcome away from the experience feeling as if they
personally and professionally. I look at my weaknesseshave received incredible value. Long-term friendships
and failures. I mentally beat myself up for not havingmay be a result.
the courage to move forward. I get grumpy withI challenge you to evaluate your life, eliminate the
myself, my family, and I may even start to blamebusy-work, find a mentor, and create the momentum
others for the consequences of my choices.that will take you further than you thought possible.
Yuck, yuck, and triple yuck!It takes courage to face your fears and challenges,
Am I alone in this?courage to ask for help from your guides, coaches,
You tell me. Has the same thing happened for you?and mentors, and courage to do what needs to be
How can you rescue yourself?done to move forward.
Here is where the natural law comes into play.Will it be scary at times?
On the river, keep your momentum, face downstream,You bet.
turn your canoe directly into the waves, and useWill it be exciting?
powerful strokes to gracefully slide through thePull your hat down tightly because it's going to be "one
white-water.*% of a ride!!"
On the ski hill, keep your momentum, turn yourAnd as Zig Ziglar used to say, "I'll see you at the top.